Regardless of how realistic you are, we all went into motherhood picturing things a little prettier than they are today. Maybe your kid threw their entire breakfast on the floor and you accidentally yelled – we know you’d never intentionally yell. Or you spent all of your quality time with your daughter looking at other people’s kids on Instagram. If you had been in our house, you would have woken up to screaming because one of those big nasty molars is tearing its way through my child’s sweet, soft gums – I had no idea how much I hated molars until this week.
No matter how many times you tell yourself “it’s okay not to be the perfect mom,” you still feel the pressure (or at least I do). You’ve been told more times than you can count that you “can’t do it all” yet not only are you trying to do it all, you also are trying to make it look good. We all do it, try to make motherhood look easier than it is; Instagram doesn’t help.
Recently, I saw a post about monthly intentions and it hit me – I don’t need to try to be the perfect mom – I’m going to be intentional. I need to make an effort every day to be better than I was yesterday. Our yesterday was pretty tough so better shouldn’t be too hard. Baby steps y’all. For the month of October I have set some intentions. I’m your typical Type A, first born child… goals and to-do lists are my jam. I’m setting intentions as a way to make sure I enjoy these days with my daughter because even on the REALLY tough days, she is still my favorite girl. If I ask myself if she knows she is loved, the answer is always yes and maybe that’s all that really matters.
What do you do to keep yourself in check? We are hoping to start a conversation about the highlights and hardships of mama life. It takes a village y’all.